A parent’s worst nightmare is to find their son or daughter lying in bed from a drug overdose. Many parents begin to blame themselves for not doing enough to help their child to beat their drug addiction.
Sometimes a parent can be the best role model for their child and their son or daughter will still turn to drugs. The main thing to keep in mind is that it is not your fault? You cannot blame yourself for someone’s life decisions no matter if they are your family member or not. Death is unexpected and nobody truly knows when or why we will die.
You raise your child with love, care and the best that you can. You messed up like everyone does in life. However, you cannot blame yourself for someone else choosing to take drugs or drink alcohol.
If it brings any comfort to you, many parents that do send their children to a treatment center experience loss as well. Whether your send your child to a treatment center or not does not guarantee that they will spend a lifetime sober. Most people that go into a drug and alcohol treatment program end up going back again. Unfortunately, drug and alcohol treatments have not come up with a 100% sound proof system that works for everyone.
Many testimonies are out there from people that did stop taking drugs and drinking alcohol for life. However, these stories are not all that common. It is more common to hear about people continuing in their addiction for a lifetime. Beating alcohol and drug addiction has a lot of factors to it. You could have been the best parent in the world and yet your child still has a drug and alcohol problem.
It is normal for a parent to feel guilty from not being able to protect their child against drug and alcohol abuse. You cannot control your child 24 hours a day. Sometimes parents wonder why their child is on drugs to begin with. Did they do something wrong to make their child want to get drugs? The important thing to keep in mind is that everyone has a different reason for taking drugs to begin with. Your son or daughter may have been taking drugs because it was the cool thing to do at the time. They may have had no idea that it was going to take their life. Sometimes a drug overdose is accidental and not intentional.
The fact that you feel guilty means that you truly cared for your son or daughter. Your love was something that your child felt whether you knew it or not. People takes drugs for their own reasons and often they do not understand their own addiction. You should not feel guilty for something that was out of your control to begin with. One of the best ways to cope with your child’s loss is to attend a support group with parents that are in the same situation as you are in. You will find that the stories you hear are actually similar to your own.