Should You Move in with the Guy that You Met at Rehab?

Should You Move in with the Guy that You Met at Rehab?
We Met at Rehab

We Met at Rehab

Inpatient rehab is often a 30 day long process.  You often talk to and meet up with people that are sharing a similar background to yours.  Many women in rehab often find love with someone that they met in a treatment center.  Is this a good idea?

There are many ways to looking at finding love in rehab.  For starters, you are both coming out of drug addiction at the same time. This fact alone means that you and the person that you are finding interest in are not strong enough to becoming sober on your own.  You may find that your addictive behavior is similar.  You may find that he has many selfish ways that he still has to overcome.  Getting sober means getting in touch with your inner self. This can often take months and years.  If you plan on living with someone that you met in rehab, please look at all the facts first.  For starters, how long have you known him?  Is he someone that you recently met or is he someone that you are trying to get to know.  Many woman make the mistake of moving in with a man that they hardly know.  They feel attracted to him and his charming ways make her think that he is her soulmate. However, once they move in with the guy, he becomes an entirely different person.  You may find out that he likes to hang out with his guy friends in bars every night. Maybe he told you that he is looking for love and family. However, when you move in with him, he may in fact still be just “one of the guys” looking for fun.  He may have no intention of staying at home with you.

He may say that he is ready to become sober for life, but in reality, once he leaves rehab, his attitude changes completely.  He is not strong enough to overcome his addiction.  In rehab, he had the support of his counselor, family and friends.  Now that he is on his own, he cannot stay sober.  Many women that are fresh out of rehab, have their own struggles to go through and are not strong enough to support their significant other.  It may take years before you can actually stand on your own two feet again.

In rehab, he may seem like he is head over heels for you.  Most relationships start out this way and then slowly fade away the reality of everyday living hits.  In rehab, he may be surrounded by only 15 other women that he is not attracted to.  Perhaps you are the only one that he is attracted to at the moment.  However, once he leaves, you may find out that he is hooking up with women that he used to know on Facebook.  An ex-girlfriend may call him back asking for forgiveness and the start of a new relationship.

An instant heartbreak after rehab can send you into a downward spiral. You may start using drugs again because you feel sad, vulnerable and in pain.

Moving in together after rehab is often the worst choice that you can possibly make.   You are not strong enough.  Wait at least a year.  If the love is truly there, you will see that it may or may not be a good time for you to live together.